My Fellow Parents....
in nomine patri, et filii, et spiritui sancto, amen
after elise's class, did not go to our fav haunts - toys'R'us or borders - as elise and eliza slept very late last night and woke up early this morning.
came home straightaway and we had a family sleep-in.
woke up in the evening and decided to go to rivervale mall for dinner and all of us went off together.
at the foodcourt, mommy and i shared kway chap while elise and eliza had char siew bao. as we were eating, eliza was sitting comfortably and eating her bao when for some reason, she decided to lean back and as our seats did not have a back rest....the inevitable happened - she flipped and fell.
thank God mommy, who was sitting next to her, dropped he chopsticks to grab eliza and cushioned her fall. eliza still fell to the floor and laid there crying. i instinctively dropped my chopsticks to and went over to see how she was and mommy picked her up and cuddled her.
i smiled at her and assured here everything was ok and asked if it was painful and eliza tearfully said yes and pointed to her head. i was worried but mommy said eliza did not hit the ground hard so it was more of a bump than a thud.
after ensuring eliza was ok, i realised that people around us were staring as if eliza's fall was a sideshow, a spectacle. i felt like standing up and ask " see what? free show? wanna continue seeing? $10 ya?! KNN!" i was mad that people were just watching and no one uttered a word of sympathy or a smile.....
then, a fat ass of a lady remarked to her son "see! this is what happens when you don't behave / when you run around" (i couldn't make out the last few words she uttered). i almost blew my top but thankfully, i decided to bite my tongue and continue with my kway chap.
what did eliza do? she was not misbehaving; she was not running around.... so why use her pain and accident as an example for your own child's lack of manners?
upon reflection, i guess i am guilty too of using accidents involving other kids to drive home a message. it is the way the lesson is communicated:
1. we either blare out like the fat ass of a mother, whose thighs resembled the roasted pork i see hanging at one of the stall, or,
2. we gently tell elise and eliza this is the consequence of an action and say it lovingly.
i mean, isn't it unkind to use another child's accident to teach a lesson and rub it in further? maybe it is because the lesson was derived at the cost of eliza that i am very upset about...but i hope this will also make me more sensitive to other children if there is an accident, as well as empathise with the parents, before i open my mouth like the fat ass woman.
i guess it's in how you say it that has the most impact and lasting impression.
in nomine patri, et filii, et spiritui sancto, amen
after elise's class, did not go to our fav haunts - toys'R'us or borders - as elise and eliza slept very late last night and woke up early this morning.
came home straightaway and we had a family sleep-in.
woke up in the evening and decided to go to rivervale mall for dinner and all of us went off together.
at the foodcourt, mommy and i shared kway chap while elise and eliza had char siew bao. as we were eating, eliza was sitting comfortably and eating her bao when for some reason, she decided to lean back and as our seats did not have a back rest....the inevitable happened - she flipped and fell.
thank God mommy, who was sitting next to her, dropped he chopsticks to grab eliza and cushioned her fall. eliza still fell to the floor and laid there crying. i instinctively dropped my chopsticks to and went over to see how she was and mommy picked her up and cuddled her.
i smiled at her and assured here everything was ok and asked if it was painful and eliza tearfully said yes and pointed to her head. i was worried but mommy said eliza did not hit the ground hard so it was more of a bump than a thud.
after ensuring eliza was ok, i realised that people around us were staring as if eliza's fall was a sideshow, a spectacle. i felt like standing up and ask " see what? free show? wanna continue seeing? $10 ya?! KNN!" i was mad that people were just watching and no one uttered a word of sympathy or a smile.....
then, a fat ass of a lady remarked to her son "see! this is what happens when you don't behave / when you run around" (i couldn't make out the last few words she uttered). i almost blew my top but thankfully, i decided to bite my tongue and continue with my kway chap.
what did eliza do? she was not misbehaving; she was not running around.... so why use her pain and accident as an example for your own child's lack of manners?
upon reflection, i guess i am guilty too of using accidents involving other kids to drive home a message. it is the way the lesson is communicated:
1. we either blare out like the fat ass of a mother, whose thighs resembled the roasted pork i see hanging at one of the stall, or,
2. we gently tell elise and eliza this is the consequence of an action and say it lovingly.
i mean, isn't it unkind to use another child's accident to teach a lesson and rub it in further? maybe it is because the lesson was derived at the cost of eliza that i am very upset about...but i hope this will also make me more sensitive to other children if there is an accident, as well as empathise with the parents, before i open my mouth like the fat ass woman.
i guess it's in how you say it that has the most impact and lasting impression.
in nomine patri, et filii, et spiritui sancto, amen
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